You might have seen this quote in one of my earlier blogs. It has to be one of my favorites because it’s relevant to various moments in my life.
If you’ve ever been a fan of Sex and The City, you know that Carrie Bradshaw was the quintessential single girl looking for love. Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte had their idea of what they were looking for in a man. All the girls dated around but each of them had a hint of their type.
Carrie, on the other hand didn’t exactly have a type. She dated all types of singles from barely legal to the wall street dream machine. There were others in between that fell into any number of the dozens of mens categories. She appeared bit “flaky” from afar for the simple reason that she gave many of us the impression she didn’t know what she wanted in a partner. She dated with the purpose of finding love. A real tall order!
“What Sex and The City Character Are You?”
For me, it has always been Carrie. Her journey to love is similar to many AW readers. We dive into a pool of dating. Set out on an exploratory trip with a map. “X” marks the spot where you find love. Right? Well, not exactly.
The wrenches in the search become compatibility, timing and needs. We may find love but it isn’t always with someone we get along with, at the right time in our lives, or with a man who understands and fulfills our needs. It’s a long way down the rabbit hole when love goes sideways. It can take a few attempts to get the best match. Might be longer as needs change in a relationship or you change.
I think a lot of us start out as Carrie. The feeling of falling head first into an emotion that makes you feel like gravity doesn’t exist, not unheard of. It happens to women everyday. Sound magical? Euphoria that lasts a fleeting moment compared to the time spent committed. Bewitched is the my way of describing the first stages of love. Carrie’s statement about wanting this insatiable feeling is real. The intoxication can make anyone feel “Carried Away.”
We want that one guy that will give us an experience like no other. Be treated like you are the most exquisite woman in the world – the happiest. No one will exist but the two of you in a room. You will breathe eachother’s air. Without it your body will feel as if it’s withering away into nothingness. Will it always make sense? Not at all, it will be the complete opposite. Nothing will make sense once love takes over. Is it fair to expect to have these feelings for the duration of a relationship? Is it truly possible for such strong emotion to withstand the test of time?
Personally, I have felt the rush of getting carried away. The desire for more of such a feeling is addicting. Amazing. Have you ever been enraptured by it? Frightfully exciting!
The trick with falling in this spiral of love is losing yourself in it. We are swept into a microcosm that places the object of our affection at the center of everything. It can shrink our world. We voluntarily put our interests, friends, family and own care in the backburner. Relinquishing who you are as a women should never be a consideration. So, why do so many of us do it? I believe it’s our nature, often without expectations.
Each of us has their own journey. A loving relationship should be a part of it. I think at the end of the day, Carrie Bradshaw was looking for her version of unconditional, passionate and selfless love. It is truly a gift to be at the receiving end of such a love affair. I too, have given my all to love in such a way that has emptied my tank, as many others.
The best take away I can give you from personal experience? It’s beautiful to get carried away. Allowing yourself to love freely and wholeheartedly is one of the most wonderful things about being human. However, to have a such an intense connection, you’ll need to let yourself be vulnerable. It is a difficult and scary thing to do with anyone. The key is to uphold your values, beliefs and self-worth while in the throes of love! But having the right person to be carried away with could give you the thrill of a lifetime. A chance worth taking, that will forever change you.
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