Ask anyone you know whether or not they have experienced a broken heart, chances are the answer will be “Yes – who hasn’t!”
Broken hearts come in many forms, it’s not only about losing a husband, lover, boyfriend, or partner. The pain can derive from extreme disappointment, death, getting let go from a job you love, it’s all related to the end of something. This finality has the power to cause extreme anguish, oftentimes leaving victims an emotional wreck. However, our inner strength is one of the biggest weapons we have against the sadness that overshadows joy during this period.
I will not pretend or sugarcoat the fact that getting your heart smashed, plain sucks! Ever fall asleep in tears, just to wake up to more crying? The process of releasing hurt is exhausting but sadly, also necessary. We all let go of the pain in our own way, breaking dishes, exercising, listening to sad songs, looking at old pictures, eating pints of ice cream, or whatever it takes. Some of us take the opposite approach by stepping up our game. The old “glow up” method! Pull out the fanciest outfit, new hairdo, and have a night out with friends in order to forget you’re hurting. Quick bandaids to stop the spiritual bleeding but the truth is that the only way out is through.
Ignoring the affliction or numbing yourself is not an ideal strategy to get over anything. My heart has been shattered by people or circumstances multiple times. One of the things I’ve learned has been to give myself permission to feel the emotions. Letting the pain take its course forces us to deal with the reality of the suffering that has taken place. If we cope with the feelings by way of self-reflection and grasp an understanding of them, there is a better chance to figure out how to make sense of things and find acceptance.
Everyone has dealt with pain in one way or another. Death, loss, betrayal, depression, divorce, and despair nearly broke me but I am still here! We can rise to the challenges that arise by actively taking part in the healing. Facing the truth about our lives is daunting. Embracing the inevitable uncertainty of life’s ups and downs can help prevent us from feeling paralyzed by the torment that comes with heartache.
As you walk the path to recovery, these are some key points to remember:
- Heartbreak is not fatal, eventually, the hurt dissipates. People bounce back, every tomorrow the pain will prick a little less. You are stronger than the ache in your heart. There is time to mourn but do not live in it for too long because life is a blink.
- Be honest with yourself about whatever has taken place to make space for acceptance. Sometimes, we lie to ourselves or ignore the truths that present themselves. They say, ignorance is bliss but too much of it can result in an oversight that can cause agony.
- Live your life. It isn’t uncommon to get wrapped up in the struggles of daily life. The difficult moments encountered challenge our faith, leaving us physically depleted sometimes. We have control of emotions, give in to them with the understanding that it is possible to accept, deal and process the feelings in a healthy way, so we can move forward and enjoy the happier times that await.
Life is filled with unpredictable moments that cause great sorrow. It’s hard to imagine who we would be without experiencing emotional hardship. Post-divorce, I spent a lot of time numbing my feelings to no avail, eventually, things caught up to me. Managing my emotions was the only way, I was able to come out on the other side of the situation. The personal growth accomplished from this drawn-out process was the place where everything changed. Gaining a new perspective inspired me to create the life I envisioned for myself. The experience sparked a journey to self-improvement that continues until today.
If you are in the midst of emotional turmoil, don’t be afraid to let yourself go. Open yourself up to what is happening within, allow room to process everything in front of you. Growth takes place in the most uncomfortable places. Don’t underestimate the impact of discomfort and how it forces change that helps your evolution into a better version of yourself.
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