Empowerment Series: Latina Comedian, Writer, Actress, Jasmine Ruiz Shares Love, Dating, and Relationships with AW
Jasmine Ruiz is a Comedian, Writer, and Actress from The Bronx, New York, who creates digital content that is relatable and authentic. She is a proud first-generation college graduate who finds passion in encouraging others to be cycle breakers. Her online and stage skits revolve around everyday struggles and topical events. The fiery Latina is working on a pilot that is coming soon to HBO!
We met at a women’s networking event. She is vibrant, outspoken, friendly, warm, and a true girls’ girl. We hit it off instantly, bonding over good conversation and wine. Having her on the podcast was a natural choice. She was an ideal guest to have a candid conversation with, about the things we sometimes think about but may be too embarrassed to say out loud!
AW sat with Jasmine for a game of 20 questions about love, dating, and relationships. We had great questions that led to some real talk. She is currently dating and gave us a bird’s eye view into the single life. It will be worthwhile to listen or watch the interview and enjoy the questions she asked me, too! You won’t want to miss the hilarious antics that took place in front of the camera on this episode.
This is a feel-good moment that reminded me of how girlfriends make the world a better place. The episode was crafted to share interesting stories and insights about dating, entertainingly. We could all use some light humor from time to time! Jasmine’s willingness to answer questions for our community is greatly appreciated and was so much fun!
Are you in a relationship, dating, or love, right now? Yes, I am dating.
Have you ever walked out on a bad date? I am really lucky, I’ve never had a bad date. The Universe blesses me and whoever I am dating. If it is a bad date, I’ll let you know immediately, why it’s a bad date and make my exit.
What is your most memorable, romantic date? Good question! Recently, had a good day at the park making a scrapbook of manifestations for the rest of the year. It was a very sweet date. Not only were we making a scrapbook together but it was also about manifestation transmitting positive energy and achieving goals while enjoying the activity over drinks and cheese.
Have you ever been gaslighted? I have gaslit myself with words that a partner said to me. I knew something was off but talked myself out of it. My thinking was “It can’t be, I must be crazy. This is not happening.” I had been lying to myself for so long and didn’t want to see the truth. Oftentimes, the longer you lie to yourself, the harder it is to stop.
I can’t say, I’ve been gaslighted but I was constantly fed justifications for things that just weren’t okay. Because it made sense, I’d shrug it off and then put my feelings on the shelf. I accepted the situation for too long.
What is the greatest lesson you have learned from love or relationships? Never desert yourself because, at the end of the day, you have to sleep with yourself. In my last relationship, I abandoned myself for a while. In walking away from that relationship, I felt like I was standing up for myself and reclaiming who I am, naturally. I learned that if you are strong-willed like me, this type of situation is not sustainable. I recall withering away, sometimes physically sick, as if my inner soul was telling me a change needed to happen. There is a breaking point where you are going to have to make that life-changing decision to make yourself right, again, and sleep at night. You have to love and put yourself first. The minute I was single again, I fell in love with myself again in so many ways. I missed that piece of me that I had lost. I am really good at this moment in my life.
Has anyone ever broken your heart? I have experienced high school heartbreak. In my adult life, I had a relationship that lasted a decade – my entire 20s. He was a great person just not my person. He did not love me the way I needed him to. It took a lot of courage to leave the relationship but that was heartbreaking in its own way. I did not see the signs and do something about it. Instead, I kept trying, knowing it wasn’t right for me. It was heartbreaking that it didn’t work. I went through a period of mourning and had to give up the vision I had for the future. It can still be heartbreak, even if it’s your decision.
Has anyone cheated on you? I have never been played the way normal people do but in a high school relationship while on “break,” there was disagreement about whether or not we could date other people during that period. I can say, there wasn’t too much drama there.
Have you dated more than one man at a time? This is a tricky question because I’m dating, right now. I haven’t. Although, I’ve tried but it is a lot of work. It is hard to get a date these days, guys do not talk to me. Honestly, it’s not something that works for me. I commend anyone who can have multiple romantic interests.
Name something you should not do if you want a man to take you seriously. I am stumped because I cannot imagine not being taken seriously! I feel that every woman deserves to be taken seriously. It is worth mentioning, that not respecting a man can easily turn him off. He may choose the hook-up versus getting into a relationship with someone disrespectful. Respect should go both ways.
Worst advice ever given about dating? You must wait a certain amount of days before having sex. The sex advice about dating these days is ridiculous. We are in 2023 if you are judging a woman based on when she wants to have sex with you, you’re not right. You are a red flag and can exit the stage left. Women are free sovereign beings. If we give into this idea that you have to wait until the third, fifth, or seventh date then what you are feeding into is the patriarchy and losing your sovereignty. It is up to the woman to decide and understand there is a risk that he may treat her differently afterward but if that is the case then you don’t need someone like that anyway.
What does your ideal mate look like? Caring and attentive, he knows how to cater because I am a giver. I have dated takers, they deplete me. A sweet and kind man with some swag is sexy. Also, he should value other people like me and have a naturally joyous spirit.
What is your opinion about dating apps? When was the last time you swiped right? I tried recently and it failed. I’m taking a break from dating.
Name one thing you could never forgive from your partner. Someone who cheats and does not stand up for me in public and private. A man who does not have my back or does not believe in me is an absolutely, no.
Quickfire challenge! What is the first thing you think about when I say, each of these words:
Dating? Dinner, I like to eat!
Sex: (Refer to the podcast for the answer)
AW is filled with gratitude each time a guest shares their story with our community. It can be challenging to verbalize our private thoughts and then talk about them on a podcast! Jasmine owns who she is and is unapologetic about it. This feisty Latina is unafraid to tell it like it is, something that isn’t made easy for women, even in today’s modern world. We can be unfairly judged, mocked, shamed, or damned for speaking our minds. So, it’s a breath of fresh air to have an open dialogue without worrying about what the other person’s perception will be.
During our lifetime, we all experience love, dating, and relationships in some shape or form. I have learned a lot during my journey as a Writer and Host, and continue to do so. Initially, some topics would make me blush. Today, I’ve grown into the role of a conversation starter and acknowledge that there is no shame in holding conversations that are thought-provoking, encourage a new perspective, and break taboos.
One of the goals of this platform is to empower our community to be more candid when discussing hard topics. In a free society, there is no reason to restrict ourselves from addressing any issue, as long as it can happen in the right setting, intelligently, and in a sensible manner. Remember, once in a while, a little humor in life goes a long way. It can help make the subject matter less heavy, as it did in this episode. I hope that you aren’t only entertained but take the gems that were dropped and make your own opinion.
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To learn more about Jasmine, follow her on Instagram @thejasmineruiz and TikTok@jasruiz.
*This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity.
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